Love bombing, Idealization, Golden period.

Love bombing , Idealization , golden period .

This is the first phase where the sociopath, psychopath and the narcissist will seduce their victims with attention, compliments, messages, good moments, good sex, phone calls, caring, love, companionship, gifts, etc. They will use all their loquacity and charm to convince their victims that they are the perfect woman, the perfect man , the right man or the right woman for them, they will talk about love , they will show their victims they are really in love with them, sometimes they will introduce the victims to their friends or family, they will show their victims how much they care for the relationship, they will ask their victims to move in with them, etc.

If ur new boyfriend or girlfriend behaves this way, if he or she demands u different things for example to quit ur job, to move in with him or her. All the relationships need time , both parts need time to know each other, if she or he asks u to marry him or her , all these things are red flags, be careful, if this person presses on u to make u do things u dont wanna do yet, if she or he is trying to manipulate u , if she or he goes on a rage because u say u are not ready yet, this person aint normal.

Sociopaths , psychopaths and narcissists do this with all their victims, they all behave in the same way, they want to catch their victims faking love, with false promises, everything is a lie, all they want is to collect victims to use and discard, to get benefits, to satisfy their needs and wants, these people dont have empathy, they cannot love, they will pretend to be someone they are not to catch u.

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  1. NatalielifecoachJune 6, 2019 at 8:15 PM

    Welcome!!! . Be strong, be brave, stay away from that toxic person. xxxxx

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    1. UnknownJune 24, 2019 at 4:53 AM

      Good Morning Natalie, My Name is Melissa. I been with my Narc husband for 7yrs Married for 5yrs come July 2nd. Iam Strong , Iam Brave however what can one do if your unable to stay away? Children, medical, business?

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  2. NatalielifecoachJune 25, 2019 at 5:37 PM

    Hello Melissa, u need to use the grey rock method, u need to stay quiet not reacting to any provocation, as I explain , this people need our emotional reactions , this is the way they have to validate themselves, because they dont own a self steem . If u dont react and dont give him fuel, he will lose interest in u and he will stop with his constant provocations.
    Stay strong . 💜

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    1. UnknownJuly 1, 2019 at 8:01 AM

      Good am Natalie, Thank you so much for your response. I sincerely hope you know that you are a blessing to myself & others! Its hard to find someone to speak to regarding this matter especially someeone who understands and have experienced it!! I have been using the grey rock method its been working thus far Thank GOD! however in the back of my mind iam constantly thinking since he's not getting the reaction he desperately seeks what lengths would he go through to get it? my husband is an unique type of narc he wont leave me alone iam his for life as he puts it!! We have been separated since last September he came back everything was fine for months. You know the Bullshit phase (Lovebombing)
      That didnt work for ME! I placed Boundaries why should i continue to be a wife to him when he hasn't been a husband to me. Especially since we are separated! So this is why We maintain contact children, medical , business. he claims he misses home he miss the amenities if home! its so funny on how stupid they continue to think we are. While i have been paying attention to all is actions he has be oblivious to mine actions! Thank you for your Continuous Support Natalie.
      Stay Blessed

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    2. natalielifecoach421July 1, 2019 at 4:45 PM

      Hi Melissa, u are welcome!!. I'm glad my advice is working with ur ex husband.
      The narcissist is empty inside, he hasnt nothing good inside, thats why he provocates to get emotional reactions from people, doing this he feels powerful and in control.
      U can expect anything from a narcissist, some of them will say they have a certain disease to call ur attention , they want u to take them back so they can use u and abuse u again.
      Stay strong for urself and the kids and smile. 💛

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